REVOLVE AROUND SEX???? Ugh, this is something i'm sure all you readers are well aware of. Yes, I have been guilty of it in the past, and yes I will probably be guilty of it in the future, but something happened that almost made me loose all hope in humanity.
Ok, so there is this website that I will not mention (no, not manhunt or any hookup site) that I frequent that is gay oriented. It's a rather good website for a common interest and I met this really awesome guy online who I have been chatting it up with for a while. First off, he's Asian and I don't usually go for Asian's, but he is gorgeous! He is also one of the sweetest guys I know. Yes yes, you can say "well how do you know if you've never met in person." Well this guy is one of a kind. I can tell because he tells me of this non profit organization he created that helps children who's parents have cancer...convinced now too?
So down to what happened. Him and I talked about hooking up and what not and he mentioned to me that he has only had sex with two guys and does not hook up at all. I applauded him for that and he was very genuine about it. He's ripped so he would have no problem finding someone to hook up with, and this I found out soon enough. I was laying in bed one night and he texted me and said "omg I'm out with a guy from *that website* and I'm having a great time." So I responded and told him I'm glad b/c he's not out so he hasn't been around too many gay people yet. Two days later we chat online and I found out the guy he was hanging out with is THE MOST GORGEOUS MAN ON EARTH. I'm not kidding, not even kidding with the caps... So I poked around and truth be told, they hooked up. I was kinda disappointed because A. they are both hot and I was jealous and B. I really believed him when he said he doesn't do that. What makes it worse is that he says they will remain friends because he was "just passing through." I told him he was a road trip booty call.
So what disappointed me so much about this. I have never met a true guy who was attractive and personable who didn't end up wanting sex. It has never happened (to me at least) and I think it might never will. I yearn for the day when a first date doesn't end up "watching a movie" or not getting a text back after the first night of hooking up or asking if I'm a top or bottom during dinner. I want the genuine husband you see in movies who sweep you off your feet on the first date, not in the way you're thinking ;)
I try hard to be that guy, I really do. With Mr. Future Husband, I refused to have sex with him and I told him that and he thought "that was the greatest thing ever." Well looking back, I should've just banged him and went along my way but oh well. So perhaps I should take a vow, a vow not to have sex until I'm in a relationship? Unfortunately if I took that vow three years ago, my hymen would have grown over again. So perhaps alter the vow to not having sex till the 3rd date? That sounds good, that's a good amount of time to hang out, get to know each other, etc. Now if you already have this rule then good for you, call me a slut! But here's to finding the guy who's not obsessed with sex!
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